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My Declaration of Self-Esteem

My Declaration of Self-Esteem

By Virginia Satir
from Chicken Soup for the Soul

The following was written in answer to a 15-year-old girl's question, "How can I prepare myself for a fulfilling life?"

       I am me.
       In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. There 
  are people who have some parts like me but no one adds up exactly 
  like me. Therefore, everything that comes out of me is authentically 
  mine because I alone choose it.
       I own everything about me - my body, including everything it 
  does; my mind, including all my thoughts and ideas; my eyes, 
  including the images of all they behold; my feelings, whatever they 
  might be - anger, joy, frustration, love, disappointment, excitement; 
  my mouth and all the words that come out of it - polite, sweet and 
  rough, correct or incorrect; my voice, loud and soft; all my actions, 
  whether they be to others or myself.
       I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.
       I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.
       Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with 
  me in all my parts. I can love me and be friendly with me in all my 
  parts, I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best 
       I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other 
  aspects that I do not know. But as long as I am friendly and loving 
  to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for the solutions to 
  the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me.
       However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever 
  I think and feel at a given moment in time is me. This is authentic 
  and represents where I am at that moment in time.
       When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and 
  did, and how I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting.
  I can discard that which is unfitting and keep that which proved 
  fitting, and invent something new for that which I discarded.
       I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do. I have the tools 
  to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, to make sense 
  and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.
       I own me and therefore I can engineer me.
       I am me and I am okay.


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