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Love is a Verb

When two individuals love each other, they are concerned for each other’s well-being and “satisfaction.” They are willing and eager to DO what it “takes” to make the other person happy. Because this feeling is mutual, they would do nothing to take advantage of each other. They realize they will have differences, but take the attitude that they can learn from each other out of those differences … they can “take advantage of” each other's wisdom/strengths, working together with mutual respect to make their “oneness” stronger than they could be separately. Differences mean you each bring an added “dimension” to each other’s life. In this “light,” they can be/are wholesome. For instance, just think of the physical difference between a man and a woman. Do not those differences attract one to the other and enrich that relationship?! YES, differences are GOOD … all it takes is the proper “frame of mind” to be able to see the benefits, and “utilize” them out of the love you have for one another. (Read "I'll Never Understand My Wife")

(The following excerpt is from The Relationship Handbook by George S. Pransky, Ph.D.)

“Complementary and incompatible are two conclusions about the same situation, two sides of the same coin. When differences are viewed with respect, partners are viewed as complementary. The same differences viewed from a feeling of discontent will make the partners seem incompatible. It is the feeling that makes the difference … [Complementary] relationships are available to anyone at every moment. What it takes to get there is a change of heart and the realization that when those feelings of warm affinity are present, everything else takes care of itself.”

A "side-note" -- Your "inlook" determines/effects your "outlook." If you feel good about/toward yourself, you will tend to feel good about/toward others. Self-Confidence/Self-Esteem makes all the difference. Remember ... you are a child of God. Your worth is beyond measure ... and so it is with others.

As “valuable” as differences are, to truly be engaged in another person’s life and acquire that closeness necessary for a wholesome relationship, there must ALSO be interests both have in common which are shared! Make no mistake … if there are no interests in common between two people, their relationship is “doomed.” Indeed, one of the seven cornerstones of strong families is time together in activities that are mutually rewarding.


If you try to force a flower to open, you will damage it; however, if you nurture it with good soil, water and sunlight … it will open itself up to you. It is the same with relationships.

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